Wa alaykum assalaam


May Allaah help you in this stressful state of mind, and bless you with happiness and bliss in both worlds. Aameen



Free-mixing and friendships between men and women are not permitted in Islam for obvious reasons. Being intimate with opposite is not permitted likewise. Allah Almighty said, "Do not come near fornication, for it is indeed lewdness and an evil life-style." (Al-Isra': 32). The key point is that even the avenues that lead to fornication should be avoided i.e. free-mixing & personal friendships with the opposite gender.

In your husband?s case, it is even graver because of his past illicit relationship (presuming this is established). He must avoid contacting these women even more than other women due to increased chance of fitnah (trial/tribulation).


Now you must be very patient and have trust in Allaah, sister. Many a times, we become agitated and aggressive and spoil the chances of bringing about positive change despite our sincerity and concerns for our beloved ones. Take this as a challenge for the sake of Allaah. You must try with positive attitude and good manners that you really care for your husband. Freaking out and not fulfilling your duties properly will be counter productive.


Advise him gently with love and compassion. If needed, take advice from local Imam, someone your husband trust and admire. If this does not work, get the senior members of the family involved like your parents, his parents or elder brothers, uncles etc.


Disclosing the secrets of other Muslim especially your husband would not be in the best interest of anyone. You cover others faults, Allaah will cover up for you, insha Allaah.


Finally, invoking and imploring Allaah with hope is the key. Supplicate day in day out for the guidance and help.


Hope this will be of some help.