As Salaam Alikum! I have approached you for your guidance on the below matter. I got converted in Islam and got married as a second wife to my husband who has 7 children with his first wife. During our initial fights in our marriage, I had spoken word divorce because of my husbands flitarious behaviour with women at work. Later after reading more about Islam, I got to learn t how this black word has effect on relationship. My husband send me to Canada, soon after 6 months of our marriage with hidden intention of not wanting me again and in hope that I get married to someone else. I followed his advice as he mentioned to me that his reason is for a better prospect. We communicated initially after my arrival and again a fight over matter of other women came up,whereby he stopped talking to me for 6 months. After pleading over emails and getting third person involved we were able to communicate and clarify our misunderstandings and started talking. I felt Allahamdualllilah that our love increased after that. He then wanted to visit me but was refused visa. Lately catching him doing cyber dating and getting to know that he was in touch with his ex-girl freind and hearing from staff that he was fliting with ladies, I angrily mentioned that if he does not change his flirtaceous behaviours then I pray that May Allah help me find a noble man. My husband again ceased his communication and this time via email he mentioned that in his mind Divorce was already taken when I use to speak that word in anger. I really have true intentions to reconcile. I do not want to go back to family of non belivers and I want that together we surrender as per the will of Allah on the righteous path- Insha Allah. I was accepted by his wife and kids and believe they are my family. I have not expected or received any financial support. I only want him to talk with me and follow the right path. There is no third person who can arbitrate from my side. What should I do? Are we still married as per Islam? JAK  [October 15, 2009]

"assalamu alikum ,my question is regarding women's education ,im 21 yrs old and im associated with tabligh, my mum is now looking a girl for me and when i put in masura with tabligh elders regarding marriage with that girl,they rejected because that girl is educated and also when i talk with tablighi guys they say dont go for educated girls they will be arrogant not obey their husband,so look for uneducated girl and education of girl not necessary in that meaning ,but mind is not accepting it ,since im in abroad now in singapore ,if i got married i need my wife to be educated and also allow her to work to run the family and a ulama said me that if u committed zina ,ur wife would also commit zina ,and he quoted an ayath in quran that pure woman is for pure man(similar meaning i guess from surah noor),so pls tell me woman should be educated wordly and if i didnt commit zina ,she too will not commit right ,pls answer my question at earliest as i have to say my parents (note:in my family womans are educated for 3 generations and rich so they wont allow me to get married to uneducated girl from poor family)pls clarify the status of woman education in islam  [September 08, 2009]

Salaam Alaikum, sorry for my ignorance but I just wanted to know about Hadith. How do we know that they are accurate if they have been re written by man? Are they as accurate as Quran? How many times were they re written? Have parts ever been extracted ( i heard that there were some Jewish imputs added to make Islam look bad) which have been rejected by Islamic scientists since. Can you just please tell me some more- I understand Quran is the written word of Allah, however i just need to understand that the Hadith is the same, hwoever some parts ive been told were added hunderds of years after Mohammed (PBUH) many Thanks Muslim In Training :-)  [September 04, 2009]

Hi There, sorry for my ignorance but I just wanted to know about Hadith. How do we know that they are accurate if they have been re written by man? Are they as accurate as Quran? How many times were they re written? Have parts ever been extracted ( i heard that there were some Jewish imputs added to make Islam look bad) which have been rejected by Islamic scientists since. Can you just please tell me some more- I understand Quran is the written word of Allah, however i just need to understand that the Hadith is the same, hwoever some parts ive been told were added hunderds of years after Mohammed (PBUH) many Thanks Muslim In Training :-)  [September 04, 2009]

Salaams, I am a convert so my parents aren't Muslim. I have grown children from a previous marriage and they aren't Muslim either. My father was abusive and cruel to me as i was growing up and continues to be so. I have been giving him his rights even though he is violent , tries to split me and my Muslim wife up and will not acknowledge my faith. I was handling this but now he's also started to cause major problems for my 2 grown up non Muslim children and he's trying to come between my relationship with them too. Where do i stand on this? Do i still give my father his rights or protect my marriage and my children? We've tried to sort this out but it's escalated out of control. Thankyou.  [September 03, 2009]

I am a Muslim married man who recently got married. Soon after the marriage I realised that I'm having difficulty in a successful sexual relationship with my wife, which is causing frustration to my wife. I didn't know that I have this kind of deficiency in me before marriage because I have never been in sexual relationship with a woman. This was my first experience ever in life. Anyway me and my wife thought that my be with the time it will get better but still the same situation its been about six months, we are not having any sexual relationship. Meanwhile I have seen to different doctors but after they did the check up they said you are fine and there isn't anything wrong with you physically its the matter of time it will get OK as you will try more and more, which is not a satisfactory answer for my wife because the results are not encouraging. Now she is asking for Divorce from me because she thinks I'm not or I won't be able to perform my husbandly duties properly. This has caused quite a bit of tensions between us. I'm not willing to go for Divorce because I'm still optimistic that thing will get OK if we use medicine or seek some sort of cure for the problem if there is any as such. Another aspect of the relationship is that she doesn't even allow me to touch her or kiss her so I'm controlling myself and not doing that, she stopped talking to me for about two weeks not taking any interest in me or other household matters. She is not even listening to any other elders in the family. I like her so much and has provided her will everything I can possibly within my means to her but still she is insisting that the most important thing is missing which is the core of the relationship of a husband and wife which I totally agree with her. Under such circumstances if she insists for Divorce here in the UK would it be valid under the Laws of this country, and can she force me to Divorce her whilst its still not confirmed that I will not be able to do my deeds ever.  [August 27, 2009]

As-salam aleykum Imam may Allah Almight bless you and help you in your job. IMAM I am a student majoring ISLAMIC STUDIES. I have a question IMAM, the question is,does Islam allowed Extremism? And what is the concept of the Extremism in Western curriculum, and Islamic curriculum? IMAM please I want you to help me a book containing this point. Because I want to write my project about extremism in Islam.I will be so happy if I get it. Is your brother in Islam Ousman thank you.  [August 14, 2009]

Are sisters allowed to go to the cemetery/grave yard to prayer for the loved ones whom have passed away, and tend to the graves.  [August 12, 2009]

Assalamu alaikum, i would like to ask if vinegar is haram, or not? jazakallah khair  [July 23, 2009]

How come there are some nasty Muslims that blow people up?  [June 24, 2009]

Assallamualikum, if you kindly explain me "The Islamic Concept Regarding Four Wives"  [June 23, 2009]

Is Spirit vinegar halal or haram?  [June 07, 2009]

Assalamualikum I would like to ask you about the monies whether zakah or sadaqah collected by Islamic Charities. Allah SWT says in the Quran Charities shall go to the poor, the needy, the workers who collect them, the new converts, to free the slaves, to those burdened by sudden expenses, in the cause of GOD, and to the traveling alien. Such is GOD's commandment. GOD is Omniscient, Most Wise 9:60 The question that most donors like myself understand is that when I give my 1 to a charity not all of it will get to the needy and some of it will be spent on administration. In this context I would like to know from a scholarly perspective: How much is actually allowed to be taken from charitable donation by charities to be used on administration? Are there different percentages allowed for different types of charitable activity? o i.e. If given 1 for Zakah and 1 for Sadaqah can a charity take the same amount to spend on its admin or does one type of donation allow more to be spent on admin than the other. o Similarly if given 1 for orphans and 1 for water project can a charity take the same amount to spend on its admin or does one type of donation allow more to be spent on admin than the other. What is defined as administrative costs and non administrative cost o i.e. How should costs in raising emergency funds (including website and marketing material) , transferring emergency funds and implementing emergency projects be treated - as an emergency cost or as admin? Your Brother in Islam Azeem  [June 06, 2009]

What is the Ruling on Mixed Marriage Ceremonies?  [May 15, 2009]

In our city there Arab Druze restaurants. We heard about these people, whether we are allowed to eat from their food, noting that they dont slaughter the animal that provides the meat themselves, rath  [May 15, 2009]

What is the hokum of socializing with a different sex in our environment? In mosque, men and women sections are apart, but in college everything is mixed. I cannot stay away from my male classmates. M  [May 15, 2009]

What is the best way to approach Islam?  [May 15, 2009]

: Is it permissible for a Muslim husband to completely prevent his Muslim Western wife from visiting her Christian parents? Is he allowed to allow her to visit them sparingly? Does Islam prefer for on  [May 15, 2009]

What is the Ruling of taking loans from Non-Islamic banks for educations if there is no Islamic banks or if there are but they don't have that much budget? (Any sort of education not specifically Isla  [May 15, 2009]