Being a married girl, What are my duties to my parents since i have 2 married brothers! I have two younger brothers both of them married and one of them settled. But due to some financial crisis my parents were living with me from 7 months And Alhamdullillah my husband never complained! And beeing hafiz,aalim and faazil he always helped them ! Since my childhood i always had problems with my mother because of her unjust nature with me and my brothers. Then i married and those things seems to be reduced to almost nothing Alhamdullillah i really love my parents and always received them well and with pleasure.Now living together it seems like all the problems came back again.When i talk to my daughter, my mother thinks that i am taunting her when Allah knows that is not true at all, and when explaining,clarifying that i didn't meant to hurt her she never beleives me, since the quarrels and yellings and disrespect wich i never ever wanted to do it,Allah knows that i never wanted to disrespect her or hurt her, and many issues like that for wich she suddenly stops talking to me and i dont even know whats the matter.I ask her for forgiveness but she's saying she'll never forgive me and will never come to my house again and nor she want me to go to her house. She keeps telling me that the mother in islam have such and such rights, and it's a big sin to cut relations, and all that, but where is islam when it comes to her, i always heard from her that Allah likes the forgivers, why is she doing this to me..afterall i am her daughter!! There were many things that i disliked about her but i didn't even show her that i was not happy with some of her attitudes towards me and my children..and like this i was living for 6 months always worried and in tension that i dont know what might hurt her.. but i wasn't complaining because after all she's my mother.But now my husband knows all the problems and to avoid problems in front of my children, we told them (to my parents) that we are going to arrange for another house but  [July 05, 2010]

Asslam-u-Alaikum Imam Sahib! We have been living here for last three years and now we are planning to get a mortgage but we are very unsure about it. Whether mortgage is halaal or not? Can you please give us a brief information about that. Regards  [July 05, 2010]

Salaams, I need help. I want to be able to move on but I can't help dwelling on matters. I had an arranged marriage. I'm British, husband is Pakistani. We have 2 daughters. Signs were bad from the start. I had to support myself and children. I was always fearful that my husband only married me for a visa and would cheat and indulge in haraam vices. We have been separated for over 3 years and now he wont communicate at all. He never sees the kids. I know for a fact he smokes drugs and drinks. My daughters nursery teacher saw him in a bar. When challenged with these issues, he was very abusive and has boasted he has cheated. Family dont seem to care. We are expected to stay alone and we get no help, company or support. My children are sad, they cannot understand why or how could their father reject them. He won't be a family man at all. He lives in a room in a house with other guys, only 15 mins walk from my home. He refuses to divorce, saying we are already divorced on account of our separation. I can't stop thinking about this. I feel if I am being driven madby all this. I have a list of his friends numbers. I feel like sending them an anonymous message telling them all about him. I am consumed with thoughts of revenge and bitterness. I don't want to carry on like this. Please advise. Jazakallah  [July 03, 2010]

IN ISLAM, ORAL AND ANAL SEX IS ALLOWED? CAN WE SUCK THE DOWN PART OF HUSBAND AND WIFE. MY HUSBAND IS FORCING ME EVERYDAY TO DO IT, I PRAY 5 TIMES WHEN I REFUSE TO DO THAT HE DIVORCE ME. PLEASE TELL ME, IM MUSLIM AND MY HUSBAND IS MUSLIM AS WELL.  [July 02, 2010]

Salam, I am in desperate need of advice. I Have been nearly married for four years now. I got married when i was 18 abroad. I was happy with the marriage and everything was very happy happy at the begining. However a few days before my wedding i received some news about my to be husband, at the time I wasn't familiar with the habits. My parents were having second thought about the marriage. The wedding invitation was sent out, the venues booked etc. My parents spoke to his parents and were calling the wedding off, but for some reason they were all waiting for my reply. His father was crying to me on the phone and told me that his sone when to perfrom Umrah and that he is no longer addicted as is healthy. I felt sorry for him and though if i cancell the wedding it would make me look bad as the marriage broke before it started. Annnyway 3 years and 10 months in, i have sacrificed my career, education, job to even to a point where i have changed incredibly as a person. I'm not as soft spoken as i used to be, and friends and co workers see me as hard skinned and selfish. I have travelled back and forth to my home country and spent 3 to 6 months at a time. He tells me he loves me, i have helped him fight through battling his addiction. He now just sits home, curses him mum for ruining his life. All his mum did was force his dad to put him in Rehab but since he come out hes very very rude to his mum. The list is endless and it has come to a point where i no longer wish to be married to him. I live with my parents, no body ever beleives i'm married. I don't feel like a wife. I don't feel protected. Woman get married and are taken care of by their hsubands, shetlered and loved. I feel none. I do not rely on my family and am very independant. I wouldn't say i am happy. But i am at peace and Alhamdulilah god has given me the strength of takking care of myself. I feel our marriage is a waste of his and my time. He claims he loves me but is not a man of his words. I have threatened to divorce him many times. I rea  [June 30, 2010]

salaam, I currently work as a traffic warden and intend to go cabbing(taxi) in augast inshAllah. i will therefor be self employed my question is that alot of muslim brothers are taxying declaring less income to avoid to pay tax and claim tax credits at the same time. if i do the same will my earnings be haram as i will be cheating the goverment. what i intend to do is not claim any tax credits but also not pay tax on my earning so i wont be taking or giving anything from the british goverment as i beleive that i shouldnt be paying tax as that money is used in wars against our muslim nations. now if i dont pay tax at the same time claim benefits thats wrong. but i intend not to claim anything and not give anything as well (tax). plz guide me are my intensions right. JazakAllah  [June 29, 2010]

Assalamu-alaikum, I am in real turmoil over whether I should have another baby. I have 2 boys aged 12 and 5. In both instances the pain of childbirth and the struggle of the first year has really affected me psychologically, so much so that I feel I can't cope with another child. I don't know what to do and would very much like an islamic perspective on this. Above all, I don't want to go against Allah's wishes.  [June 25, 2010]

Salam, I know a close friend who had physical relationship with her boy friend before marriage. She was that time 19 yaers old.. He promissed to marry her. but he did not. She was very depressed all the past 13 years, crying daily, isolating her self from society. Recently she knew a very descent guy.. He wants to proppse to her.She told him, she wants to pray estikhara. At the same time, she is not virgin.. she can do operation, but she feels very guilty and wants to tell him, but she has fears.. What would be your opinion.. I told her Allah *is As-Sattaar* ..you feel guilty and keep this secret.. We want to know your opinon in such case, please.. Thank you very much,  [June 23, 2010]

Assalamu Alaikum Dear Brother, At the moment I am working at the Gap Store, UK, where the main marchandising is the clothes. however recently they started selling clothes for MEN made out of 10% slik in it and the rest is cotton and something else, which is not harful within my knowledge. Now my qestion is, would that be haraam to sell this type of clothes for MEN because there is 10% silk in it? The other thing u may need to know is, this type of silk made clothes are not a lot, around eight to nine different types of clothes are made of 10% silk, and the rest is fine, ie, jeans, formal pant, shirts, jumpers.....etc. Among t-shirts there are some which has a print or image of birds or animals but not any human beings but they are also few. My main job is to put the clothes in the shop floor and help the customers to choose the clothes. It would be helpfull if u kindly find out for me whether it would be halaal to work there? Jazak Allah Khaire.  [April 10, 2010]

i really need help..i fail my first ivf,this is my secord time...today i had embryo. i really want do use the al baari'u (thegiver of life) (99 beautiful name of Allah) if a barren woman fasts for 7 days and each day after making istari, reads al-baari ul musawweru 21 time,Allah will grant her male children inshAllaH and same other one al musaw wiru (the fashioner of shapes).the problem is that i take ivf tablets 3-4 time a day. i really want this ivf work.is there any way for dua without fasting.please replyed asap.  [April 09, 2010]

Can I marry a new revert muslim practicing male? i am a born muslimah. the revert muslim has only one non- muslim mother and a sister. my question is that Is it ok to marry him? does he need to change his name to an islamic name in order for Nikkah to be done? is Circumcision Necessary?, Is it ok to live in the same house where the non muslim mother lives? What should my attitude/treatment be like with my non muslim mother in law? the mother os the new revert is a sikh and does not practice her own religion at home. Please help.  [March 29, 2010]

Assalamu alaikum, I am in the process of getting a divorce. I loved to the city when I got married and only my sister and her husband live here. My parents are back in the city where I grew up. I am currently completing studies whilst staying at my sisters house. I have a fantastic job and if I go back to my parents I would not be able to continue with this or find another job. I want to re-start building a life for myself and for me the main thing that will help me is my job. I was wondering, islamically would it be halal for me to buy and live in my own accomodation (near my sisters house so that I was near family and I would go back to visit my family regularly) as a single muslimah, at least for a year while I get the experience I need for my career. Also I would be near islamic organisations so that I could cotinue to develop my islamic knowledge and charecter. My exhusband has destroyed everything else in my life, surely I should be allowed to maintain this one thing that I have for myself? Would this be okay if my parents agreed to it? Or would I have to go back to live with my parents? I hope to receive a reply from you shortly.  [March 24, 2010]

Assalamu Alaikum I would like to ask imam saab to help with some questions. A man is now married with 2 children. Before he was married he had affairs with other ladies, now he is going abroad, is it jaiz for him to give them anything, money etc, speak to them, and also eat together in one room. please let me know as soon as possible  [March 11, 2010]

I am a revert of 2 yrs and i recently married 3 months ago. since my marriage my husband has turned out to be totally different from what he claimed. I have found messages from girls on his fone..he says he will do something and doesnt IE spend time with me..he never spends any time with me as he has his own business and says his business is more important than me. He works 20 hours a day and sometimes on days he never utters a word to me. He does not bathe sometimes for 3 weeks in a row even after intercourse. I hardly ever receive intercourse and he refuses me saying he is tired or he cant be bothered but I never refuse him. I told him b4 marriage my appetite for this was high and he agreed to give me intercourse whenever i wanted it and he doesnt. sometimes going weeks without it. H e doesnt listen to me he didnt give me my mahr yet and i have caught him lying to me on several occasions and now i do not trust him. He put me in a house without chairs and washing machine etc and even thought I have moved my life for him quit my job etc moved to another city he doesnt seem to be interested in me at all...he pushed for us to marry quick and now it seems like he doesnt care about me. I have asked him to come to see an imam with me but he refuses...after intercourse he often does not bathe and goes for Jummah prayer...I dont know what to do about it...should I divorce him? I have tried to resolve our problems and now i refuse him intercourse because he smells as he doesnt bathe...the whole reason i married was not to commit zina and i am the same now as i was before marriage what shud i do? i am at a loss and often think about running away from everything  [February 25, 2010]

Asalaam Alaykum, I am new to this website, and find it very good. I am disabled and wanted to know what can i read for better health. I Pray daily, read quran pak and recite Surah Rahman, Surah Yaseen and Dua eh Ganj ul Arsh. Is there any other surahs or duas which you recommend for good health. It would be great if you could make dua for me and my family. Do you have any literature with regards to illness as that would be beneficial to me as sometimes i get depressed and wonder why am i like this and other people who do not perform any muslim activity are well this would be great for me jazakallah  [February 17, 2010]

Slaam Imam i would like to know that if I read the Quraan in English will i get the same reward if i read the Quraan in Arabic as I understand english.then I know what I am reading I feel that the whole point of reading the Quraan is to undrstand it? thanyou please reply as iam very confused.  [February 14, 2010]

As-salamu alaykum, i recently converted to islam and i am searching for where i can get documents that state my religion legally, Hamdullilah many thanks  [February 03, 2010]

As Salaam Alikum! I have approached you for your guidance on the below matter. I got converted in Islam and got married as a second wife to my husband who has 7 children with his first wife. During our initial fights in our marriage, I had spoken word divorce because of my husbands flitarious behaviour with women at work. Later after reading more about Islam, I got to learn t how this black word has effect on relationship. My husband send me to Canada, soon after 6 months of our marriage with hidden intention of not wanting me again and in hope that I get married to someone else. I followed his advice as he mentioned to me that his reason is for a better prospect. We communicated initially after my arrival and again a fight over matter of other women came up,whereby he stopped talking to me for 6 months. After pleading over emails and getting third person involved we were able to communicate and clarify our misunderstandings and started talking. I felt Allahamdualllilah that our love increased after that. He then wanted to visit me but was refused visa. Lately catching him doing cyber dating and getting to know that he was in touch with his ex-girl freind and hearing from staff that he was fliting with ladies, I angrily mentioned that if he does not change his flirtaceous behaviours then I pray that May Allah help me find a noble man. My husband again ceased his communication and this time via email he mentioned that in his mind Divorce was already taken when I use to speak that word in anger. I really have true intentions to reconcile. I do not want to go back to family of non belivers and I want that together we surrender as per the will of Allah on the righteous path- Insha Allah. I was accepted by his wife and kids and believe they are my family. I have not expected or received any financial support. I only want him to talk with me and follow the right path. There is no third person who can arbitrate from my side. What should I do? Are we still married as per Islam? JAK  [October 15, 2009]

"assalamu alikum ,my question is regarding women's education ,im 21 yrs old and im associated with tabligh, my mum is now looking a girl for me and when i put in masura with tabligh elders regarding marriage with that girl,they rejected because that girl is educated and also when i talk with tablighi guys they say dont go for educated girls they will be arrogant not obey their husband,so look for uneducated girl and education of girl not necessary in that meaning ,but mind is not accepting it ,since im in abroad now in singapore ,if i got married i need my wife to be educated and also allow her to work to run the family and a ulama said me that if u committed zina ,ur wife would also commit zina ,and he quoted an ayath in quran that pure woman is for pure man(similar meaning i guess from surah noor),so pls tell me woman should be educated wordly and if i didnt commit zina ,she too will not commit right ,pls answer my question at earliest as i have to say my parents (note:in my family womans are educated for 3 generations and rich so they wont allow me to get married to uneducated girl from poor family)pls clarify the status of woman education in islam  [September 08, 2009]

Salaam Alaikum, sorry for my ignorance but I just wanted to know about Hadith. How do we know that they are accurate if they have been re written by man? Are they as accurate as Quran? How many times were they re written? Have parts ever been extracted ( i heard that there were some Jewish imputs added to make Islam look bad) which have been rejected by Islamic scientists since. Can you just please tell me some more- I understand Quran is the written word of Allah, however i just need to understand that the Hadith is the same, hwoever some parts ive been told were added hunderds of years after Mohammed (PBUH) many Thanks Muslim In Training :-)  [September 04, 2009]

Hi There, sorry for my ignorance but I just wanted to know about Hadith. How do we know that they are accurate if they have been re written by man? Are they as accurate as Quran? How many times were they re written? Have parts ever been extracted ( i heard that there were some Jewish imputs added to make Islam look bad) which have been rejected by Islamic scientists since. Can you just please tell me some more- I understand Quran is the written word of Allah, however i just need to understand that the Hadith is the same, hwoever some parts ive been told were added hunderds of years after Mohammed (PBUH) many Thanks Muslim In Training :-)  [September 04, 2009]

Salaams, I am a convert so my parents aren't Muslim. I have grown children from a previous marriage and they aren't Muslim either. My father was abusive and cruel to me as i was growing up and continues to be so. I have been giving him his rights even though he is violent , tries to split me and my Muslim wife up and will not acknowledge my faith. I was handling this but now he's also started to cause major problems for my 2 grown up non Muslim children and he's trying to come between my relationship with them too. Where do i stand on this? Do i still give my father his rights or protect my marriage and my children? We've tried to sort this out but it's escalated out of control. Thankyou.  [September 03, 2009]

I am a Muslim married man who recently got married. Soon after the marriage I realised that I?m having difficulty in a successful sexual relationship with my wife, which is causing frustration to my wife. I didn?t know that I have this kind of deficiency in me before marriage because I have never been in sexual relationship with a woman. This was my first experience ever in life. Anyway me and my wife thought that my be with the time it will get better but still the same situation its been about six months, we are not having any sexual relationship. Meanwhile I have seen to different doctors but after they did the check up they said you are fine and there isn?t anything wrong with you physically its the matter of time it will get OK as you will try more and more, which is not a satisfactory answer for my wife because the results are not encouraging. Now she is asking for Divorce from me because she thinks I?m not or I won?t be able to perform my husbandly duties properly. This has caused quite a bit of tensions between us. I?m not willing to go for Divorce because I?m still optimistic that thing will get OK if we use medicine or seek some sort of cure for the problem if there is any as such. Another aspect of the relationship is that she doesn?t even allow me to touch her or kiss her so I?m controlling myself and not doing that, she stopped talking to me for about two weeks not taking any interest in me or other household matters. She is not even listening to any other elders in the family. I like her so much and has provided her will everything I can possibly within my means to her but still she is insisting that the most important thing is missing which is the core of the relationship of a husband and wife which I totally agree with her. Under such circumstances if she insists for Divorce here in the UK would it be valid under the Laws of this country, and can she force me to Divorce her whilst its still not confirmed that I will not be able to do my deeds ever.  [August 27, 2009]

As-salam aleykum Imam may Allah Almight bless you and help you in your job. IMAM I am a student majoring ISLAMIC STUDIES. I have a question IMAM, the question is,does Islam allowed Extremism? And what is the concept of the Extremism in Western curriculum, and Islamic curriculum? IMAM please I want you to help me a book containing this point. Because I want to write my project about extremism in Islam.I will be so happy if I get it. Is your brother in Islam Ousman thank you.  [August 14, 2009]

Are sisters allowed to go to the cemetery/grave yard to prayer for the loved ones whom have passed away, and tend to the graves.  [August 12, 2009]

Assalamu alaikum, i would like to ask if vinegar is haram, or not? jazakallah khair  [July 23, 2009]

How come there are some nasty Muslims that blow people up?  [June 24, 2009]

Assallamualikum, if you kindly explain me "The Islamic Concept Regarding Four Wives"  [June 23, 2009]

Is Spirit vinegar halal or haram?  [June 07, 2009]

Assalamualikum I would like to ask you about the monies whether zakah or sadaqah collected by Islamic Charities. Allah SWT says in the Quran Charities shall go to the poor, the needy, the workers who collect them, the new converts, to free the slaves, to those burdened by sudden expenses, in the cause of GOD, and to the traveling alien. Such is GOD's commandment. GOD is Omniscient, Most Wise 9:60 The question that most donors like myself understand is that when I give my 1 to a charity not all of it will get to the needy and some of it will be spent on administration. In this context I would like to know from a scholarly perspective: How much is actually allowed to be taken from charitable donation by charities to be used on administration? Are there different percentages allowed for different types of charitable activity? o i.e. If given 1 for Zakah and 1 for Sadaqah can a charity take the same amount to spend on its admin or does one type of donation allow more to be spent on admin than the other. o Similarly if given 1 for orphans and 1 for water project can a charity take the same amount to spend on its admin or does one type of donation allow more to be spent on admin than the other. What is defined as administrative costs and non administrative cost o i.e. How should costs in raising emergency funds (including website and marketing material) , transferring emergency funds and implementing emergency projects be treated - as an emergency cost or as admin? Your Brother in Islam Azeem  [June 06, 2009]

What is the Ruling on Mixed Marriage Ceremonies?  [May 15, 2009]

In our city there Arab Druze restaurants. We heard about these people, whether we are allowed to eat from their food, noting that they dont slaughter the animal that provides the meat themselves, rath  [May 15, 2009]

What is the hokum of socializing with a different sex in our environment? In mosque, men and women sections are apart, but in college everything is mixed. I cannot stay away from my male classmates. M  [May 15, 2009]

What is the best way to approach Islam?  [May 15, 2009]

: Is it permissible for a Muslim husband to completely prevent his Muslim Western wife from visiting her Christian parents? Is he allowed to allow her to visit them sparingly? Does Islam prefer for on  [May 15, 2009]

What is the Ruling of taking loans from Non-Islamic banks for educations if there is no Islamic banks or if there are but they don?t have that much budget? (Any sort of education not specifically Isla  [May 15, 2009]